Living Without Violence
Over nine years, Man Alive has developed a unique approach to non-violence courses. Participants work in a group of 16 men with two facilitators, once a week for 2 and a half hours. We'll also arrange one-to-one counselling if it's needed.
Living Without Violence and Te Ara Taumata Ora programmes run by Man Alive will not blame, shame or judge men. Men will however, be encouraged to take responsibility for their violence and understand there is no excuse for abuse.
Trained facilitators help men create their futures, instead of destroying them, by working with them to:
- Take responsibility for their actions
- Learn how to avoid and manage conflict
- Have positive relationships
- Create safety strategies in their home
- Deal with personal issues
Man Alive's point of difference from other non-violence programmes is that they are run by men, for men.
Our Maori programme, Te Ara Taumata Ora, uses the same themes as Living Without Violence but they are delivered in culturally appropriate ways. A Kaumatua attends most sessions, run by Maori facilitators.
Violence - Owning It
You know when people you love are scared of you - it shows in their eyes. They do and say things to keep you happy, regardless of whether it's good for them.You know that.
Sometimes the sense of power feels good but it doesn't last long. You end up saying "sorry" to your kids and/or partner a lot and looking back over your life with regret.
It'd be a miracle if the people who love you manage to hang in. In fact, most of them won't - not for the long haul.
But it doesn't have to be this way. Man Alive runs life-changing Living Without Violence courses that will help you understand why you get angry and how to deal with your feelings before they explode into anger.
That way, you'll feel in control and you won't harm others. You'll feel good about yourself.
Results of Living Without Violence and Te Ara Taumata Ora
Men's stories are the best testament to the benefit of doing a Man Alive Living Without Violence course.
"My father should be here. I want to do this work now, so that my son never does what I did to get here."
Eric
"My kids will never see me bully another women. I hate hearing how my boy is now trying to bully my ex. I am trying to put that right."
Samuel
"I was blaming my wife for the violence. I couldn't make progress until I took responsibility for what I was doing."
Mark
"The guys helped me start a new life. I'm happy for the first time. My new partner trusts me. I recommend it."
Ben
Create the future you want!
Living Without Violence and Te Ara Taumata Ora programmes run in accordance with the Domestic Violence Act and are approved by Probation Services. They are free to men covered by a protection order. A fee applies to others, although in some cases a full subsidy can be obtained.
Programmes run in Henderson and Glen Innes. We also run a programme for migrant and refugee men in Otahuhu.
Cost
- Living Without Violence One To One Counselling (12 Week Programme. Per session Cost)
- - Self Referred (In cases of financial hardship a subsidy may be available) - $90.00
- - Agency Referred - $90.00
- Living Without Violence Group Programme - Self Referred
- Assessment - $50.00
- Group Programme (21 Sessions and Interviews)
- If paid in advance - $540.00
- If paid by 20 Automatic payments of $30 per week - $600.00
- (Note: Automatic payments must start prior to Induction Start)
- Catch Up Sessions - $45.00
- Living Without Violence Group Programme - Agency Referred
- Assessment - $90.00
- Group Programme (20 Sessions - Per Session Cost) - $90.00
- Catch Up Sessions - $90.00
For dates and times of Living Without Violence and Te Ara Taumata Ora programmes, use the Man Alive contact form, phone us on (09) 835 0509, or email us.